There is a tide in the sexual intercourse. Taken at the flood. it leads to the great fortune of a climax which, to the persons interlinked with golden chains of love, is more valuable at the moment than any other possession in the world. There cannot be a greater failure and frustration for a man or woman than inability to reach the sexual climax.
Role of the Woman
''Books, magazines and newspapers", says Or. R. Swaroop, in Increase Your Sexual Efficiency, "compete with each other in instructing women how to become beautiful, but they rarely mention something which is more vital__how to captivate and enchant a lover by the skilfu1 use of the feminine body. It is notorious that pretty women make poor bedmates, for beauty fades while sexual technique improves by experience. A voluptuous female body is less thrilling to the man than an ordinary one which is well versed love making''.
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Women expect to receive love, but do not feel duty bound to return it too. It is wrong to believe that a woman's role is purely passive and that she has no active responsibility in the matter. These one-sided notions make men unfaithful to their wives to their wives. Men can save their wives and themselves from being unfaithful to each other -by following the exact marriage technique as described in this book. .
The Technique of Undressing
" It is not enough merely to undress and lie down like a lifeless doll. Disrobing itself should be artistically performed, for all men like to watch a woman undress provided she uses delicacy and art. We may condemn the girls on the stage who discard their clothes one by one and ''strip-tease'' men into a high state of erotic desire, but we cannot deny that they achieve their purpose. There is a lesson here for the wife. By removing her clothes in a subtle manner. and sometimes retaining certain garments for her husband to take off, not only will she encourage his desire for her, but she herself will obtain a thri1l out of his attempts to remove them. Any idea that nudity is not decent in married life, or that behaviour is childish, should be cast aside."
Desire is also increased by u woman pre tending to deny her body to the lover. This brings out the primitive male instinct of chasing his prey. Simultaneously it satisfies the female longing to be wooed and won, pursued and forced into submission. In this rough manhandling, care must be exercised not to damage the erect male organ, because it is one liable to injury more as erect than as flaccid. Also, the female breasts need a very careful handling when love-wrestling is to be undertaken.
Preparation for Coitus
The act of sexual union is known by various names, e.g" the marital act, the coitus and the sex act. The object" of this act is to produce healthy children. To obtain this objective. it is necessary that the act is performed in a perfect manner. The successful consummation of this act, which consists of the man and the woman reaching orgasm simultaneously, increases married happiness to a great extent. Orgasm in woman is the stage when she reaches her climax and gets the highest sexual pleasure in a sexual union. It corresponds to 'ejaculation of semen' in the man. The woman usually needs more time to reach her climax and if the discharge of semen takes place before the woman reaches orgasm, her passion which has been stirred and aroused remains unsatisfied. As after the discharge' of semen the penis shrinks to its unexcited condition, the man is not then able to help the woman to reach her climax. The reader may just think of the plight of the throbbing girl whose passion has been stirred and who is badly in need of love, but has to turn away in a hopeless and sad condition. The happiness, the pleasure she had longed for has vanished in no time. She feels somewhat offended and her respect for the man gradually decreases as he could not give her the bliss and happiness she was entitled to. This dissatisfaction on the part of the woman, if continued for a considerable period, causes certain mental and physical diseases in her. Not only that, in some cases, though these may be very rare, the husband's inability to control the release of semen till his wife reaches climax becomes a cause of her having illegal relations with other men to have her sex passion satisfied.
Thus, it is very essential that the man should be able to control the discharge of his semen till his sexual partner reaches her climax. It is not a question of having retentive power for five minutes or seven minutes or ten. The criterion for success is to be able to retain the semen till one's partner reaches her climax. The blissful sexual intercourse consists in their reaching orgasm simultaneously or in any case the women's reaching it before her partner. For a healthy young man this is not very difficult to achieve provided he has knowledge of the methods and acts by which to stir the passion in a woman to n great height to enable her to reach orgasm once or twice before his semen is discharged. That is why the married love is called an 'art'. If the young husband follow the procedure of coitus described here, he will not have to face the catastrophe. On the other hand, the lover of the partners will increase and their union will be a noble success. The young girl will feel proud of her husband and will have passionate feelings for him.
Love Play
It is essential that the nun and the woman should be free from any worry and fear of disturbance from any source when they decide to have sexual union. They should, therefore, use a room where they can have the maximum amount of freedom. This is one of the main reasons for performing the sex act during night. The room should be neat and clean and deco rated according to taste. One may. if desired, have dim light in the room hut on full moon nights it becomes unnecessary if there are windows or ventilators to admit cold rays of light coming from the moon.
As has already been stated, it takes some time for arousing the sexual desire in the woman. The man, after having taken the woman in privacy, should proceed with caution. He has to excite her passion by sweet talks of deep affection, embraces and kisses: fondling of her breast, lips. thighs and the vulva and tickling her clitoris by finger tips. While doing all this, the husband should tactfully keep a watch as to which of
He should therefore make her sit or lie comfortable on bed and should himself close to her. Then he may talk to her in soft and sweet tones about his love for her, or about the ornaments or dress she is wearing or any other topic in which she is interested. He should pass his arms round her to have a light embrace and kiss her on the forehead, the check and the lower lips and also begin to fondle and press her breasts and thighs. Having t us stirred the passion in the woman to some extent the man should request her to remove clothes from her body. He should also remove his clothes and help her in doing so. When she has removed her clothes, the man must shower her with kisses, caresses and embraces on different parts of her body, What the man finds that there is a good response to embraces and kisses from the woman, he should proceed further to oilier more secret portions of her body, lie should admire the beauty of her breasts and should take them in his hands. The rubbing of nipples and parts surrounding them with the tip-; of fingers, sucking and biting of the nipples works like an electric current to rouse the passion in the woman. This is because the nipples arc connected by means of nerves to the uterus. After fondling with breasts for a few minutes, the man should brine his hand to her thighs and with a little pressure pull them apart slightly to enable his hand to reach the vulva. He may caress the vulva once or twice and then begin to tickle her clitoris with the tip of his finger. He will notice that her vulva has by now become slightly wet. This is one of the indications that the woman is now prepared for the sexual intercourse. At this stage the woman leaves her body to the entire control of the man and strongly desires that her breasts, lips, vulva and clitoris be fondled by quick movements-she herself begins to kiss, embrace the man and moves her fingers in his hair and also at other parts of his body-she casts anxious glances and shy looks at him and her eyes narrow down her breasts become hard and nipples erect - her vulva becomes wet with a slippery fluid. All these symptoms indicate that the woman's desire has been extremely aroused and that she is fully prepared to have the union of sex organs.
This is the time for the blissful intercourse for which the partner had anxiously waited and longed for. Many poses can be adopted for the union of sexual organs but here the most natural one will he described. Some other poses will 'be explained later. The woman lies flat on her back with her legs wide apart and slightly bent so as to facilitate the introduction of the male organ in the vagina. Cushions may be placed under her loins to raise the pelvis of the woman. This helps the penetration of penis being very deep in the vagina. When the woman has taken this position the man sits on his knees between her legs and slowly bends on her giving deep pressures, embraces and kisses. At this stage, his organ touches her vulva. Then he should take his stiff organ in his hand, if necessary, and should tickle the clitoris with the glans penis for some moments. This will arouse great sensations of pleasure in the woman and she will desire immediate insertion of the penis. He should force his stiff penis by light pressure movements, till it smoothly goes deep inside. When it is her first or second union, i.e., when the vagina is very tight and the hymen is present, special care should be taken at the time of penetration. For detailed precautions to be taken and the procedure to he adopted in that case, please see the next chapter on 'Wedding Night'.
Movements and Orgasm
The union of the sexual organs should be considered to have taken place when the entire length of the penis is tightly encased in the vagina. The man should now bring out, say half of his penis slowly and again insert it deep inside. This may be done once or twice and then he should keep the mate organ pressed hard in the vagina and remain passive himself. It is now the woman's turn to be active and in most cases the woman is unable to resist her passion and she herself begins to move in a swing-like circular motion. She gradual1y, increases the speed of these movements making them very quick to reach her climax.. This is the critical time when the husband should manage to restrain -himself. This he can do by keeping himself busy with fondling her breasts or by keeping his thoughts elsewhere or by holding his breath-he learns it best by experience. The movements of the woman from below enable the glans penis touch the mouth of the uterus which creates pleasing sensation in the woman. When the notices that the woman is about to reach her orgasm-this can be found from her very quick circular movements, her rapid breath and sudden whispers-he should start his movement s also, He should bring out a portion of his penis and give a light stroke. He should slowly and steadily increase the frequency and force of his movements. The stage of orgasm in the woman reaches-the vagina of the woman relaxes and contracts again and again-the mouth of the uterus opens and closes convulsively-her pulse and respiration become very rapid and she finds herself totally exhausted. The man, if he has not ejaculated at the time of her climax should increase the speed of the movements to effect the discharge of his semen. A union of this kind, i.e., where the man discharges his semen with or after the orgasm of the woman, is considered entirely successful and both are relaxed mentally and physically though they have rapid breaths and feel exhausted. Another important point may be mentioned here, i.e., if in any case the man gets discharged just before the woman reaches her climax, he should not break the union of the sex organs but should keep the penis pressed in the vagina. The woman will continue her movements and will reach orgasm by her own action because with the presence of semen in the vagina the woman at that stage gets orgasm immediately.
Withdrawal after Orgasm
After the woman has reached orgasm and the man discharged his semen, the male' organ should not be brought out of the vagina all at once. The sex organs shou1d be kept united till the penis maintains its stiffness or so long as they desire. The vagina1 walls suck up some of the semen discharged by the man and the glans takes some of the vaginal fluids. The semen of the man contains some vitalizing, nerve-stimulating and soothing elements. The' absorption of these elements by the woman through her vaginal walls is one of the main reasons of her putting on flesh and becoming very charming soon after marriage. The vaginal fluids secreted by the woman, if absorbed through the glans, are considered to be healthful and beneficial to the man. Moreover, the union of organs for some time after orgasm is very helpful in bringing about concepation in the woman.
Sleep after Coitus
If the intercourse has been to the entire satisfaction of the man as we1l as the woman, the relaxation of the nerves in their bodies is very marked. They feel the desire of stretching their limbs and resting their bodies. They immediately get natural, deep sleep which is always restorative and refreshing. After availing themselves of such sound sleep, they get up in a very bright and happy mood.
Various Ways of Sexual
The sexual act can be performed in various positions. In some books, it is stated that there are sixty-four or eighty-four asanas or poses. All of them are not practicable. Only some of them may be adopted properly. The position a1ready described in detail, i.e., the woman lying on her back, is the most natural one, but, as has been explained in the chapter on Sexual Organs, the length of the penis or the depth of the vagina varies from individual to individual. If the glans of the penis when it is fully inserted in the vagina just touches the mouth of the uterus the combination of 1ength is considered best. That is why, while se1ccting a life partner, due consideration is given to one's body and general health. For those who have equal length as mentioned above "the woman on her back" pose is considered the best. This is also called the man superior position. The couple may, however, if they so desire, adopt other poses a1so occasionally for the sake of variety.
But, where the woman's vaginal canal is not so long as the man's organ. the union while she is lying on, her back is painful to her and if the difference in the sizes is great it may even cause injury to her internal structure. In such cases, the woman-superior pose is considered suitable. The man lies flat on his back and the woman remains over and above him. This pose enables the man to remain passive and the woman takes the active part. She can move freely and help herself to reach climax. The woman can in this position so control her movements that the male organ does not cause any pain or injury to her. Other poses suitable in this state of affairs can be adopted if the couple lie on their sides during intercourse because in that case the penetration of penis is not very
On the other hand, there are cases when the depth of the vaginal canal is longer than the male organ and the union is not very pleasurable to the woman. In such a case the man-superior position may be adopted and an additional cushion placed under her loins. Instead of keeping the legs slightly bent she should draw up her knees almost to her breasts. In this position the penetration is very deep and the vagina is shortened by about half an inch. The clitoris is also raised towards the penis and the glans touches the mouth of the uterus. The woman reaches her climax soon and there are great chances
of impregnation. Very deep penetration can also be obtained when the woman bends aver and the organ is inserted from behind. The woman may kneel on the bed and rest on her elbows and may even put her head 011 the pillows. She may even stand and then bend over the bed. The penis, when inserted from behind in this way, goes very deep inside.
No hard and fast rules can be fixed for the frequency of sexual intercourse. There is a very great difference between individuals in this respect. Many factors like profession, climate, physical strength, requirements of partner, etc" have to be kept in mind while fixing the frequency. What is normal for one couple may be very harmful for the other. Every individual should therefore, determine for himself as to what limit would be suitable. There is one golden rule which should be the guiding factor in each case and that is. so long as the man and the woman feel refreshed, relaxed and happy after the coitus, they should consider themselves within the limits. On the other hand, if they begin to feel physical and mental discomfort and fatigue after coitus, they should consider this a warning that they are crossing the limit and the frequency should be decreased to avoid disastrous consequences of excess.. In view of the above, no set rules can be fixed for all. In general, however, persons having, normal health and temperament may have coitus twice a week up to the age of 35 years and once a week thereafter.
Duration of Coitus
Like frequency, the duration of coitus varies from individual to individual. In some, it lasts for a few moments while others take half an hour or even more. Thus generally it ranges from a few minutes to half an hour or so. Duration which lasts till the woman reaches her first orgasm-as she may have two or more orgasms in one union- should be considered proper. When the man's discharge of semen precedes the woman's orgasm, it should be considered a defect and steps should be taken for its removal. This defect in the man is known as pre maturity and further details about its cure will be mentioned in another chapter.
Time of Coitus
No particular time can be fixed for having sexual intercourse. Any time suited to the couple will be proper if it meets the following requirements:
(I) There should be no fear of disturbance or interruption of any kind
(ii) There should be ample time to have complete rest after coitus.
(iii) The stomach should neither be full nor absolutely empty ie. there should be a difference of 2 to 4 hours from the time of taking meals.
The above requirements are generally fulfilled at night and it is for this reason that nights are preferred for this purpose.
When Not to Have Coitus
When a person has any worry, fear or anger, i.e., when the peace of mind is disturbed.
When a person is not physically fit, it when one is suffering from headache, fever, or any other disease or even when body is fatigued or exhausted.
When one is very hungry or has a loaded stomach.
During the period of menstruation, the couple should not have coitus. The man might get some disease if the penis comes in contact with menstrual blood and the woman is also likely to get some injury if sexual act is performed during this period.
